Loosening the grip of the fear of the failure


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My fear of failure many times grips me deep in the quiet of the night. It seems that as the day’s defence wears out my critical voice clutches me tight and questions the choices I have made or how I responded in a moment publicly-  not good enough, too much this, too less that and so on. Each time I am amazed at how easily I slip into its grasp. Even with a logical explanation in my head about this being a momentary perception of myself, I can’t seem to step out of the feeling for a while and believing it to be true.

It is in these times improv attitude comes to my rescue. Similar feelings show up for me when I am improvising on stage - am I doing the scene right, is it interesting, why I said that, oh my god what do I do next.  We manage these feelings by reinforcing again and again mind-sets to free us up to be present in the moment. I find these sit well with my larger fears as well -

·         Accept the moment- Say yes to what I am feeling and stay with it instead of distracting or ignoring it.

·         Trust self- That I have the resources and wisdom to make creative choices that serve me and the others around me.

·         Embrace the uncertainty- Because I can never know what is to come and imagining it with anxiety is wasted energy. More of saying yes to the unsettling feeling.

·         Be Bold- Even though I am scared I still move into action. Confront the fear.

·         Truth over perfection- Focus on showing up fully and authentically each day, and less fuss about perfection.

·         Yes and- Add one more thing to what I am already working on daily. One more step to grow the idea just a little bit. No need to leap miles in a single step.

I have found that over a period of time I am able to witness the fearful side of  my inner landscape and not be enmeshed in it instead. The demands I place on myself of ‘musts’ and ‘shoulds’ are not as prominent anymore and that I desire discovery each day. And in overcoming each cycle of fear or disappointment I find myself more resilient, grounded and courageous. Will I still fail? Hell yes I will, but I feel more ready to slip, fall, ache and bounce back into a new moment. As Patricia Ryan  Madson says in her book Improv Wisdom- “Jump into the world of oops on your two feet and say Tadaaaaaa!”

Lets Play, February 11th 2017

Thrilled to be back again with the next workshop of Let's Play after a very meaningful run of this program in December 2016.

An open program for anyone who wants to connect and reignite one's spontaneity though exercises from improvisational theatre. The day promises to engage your body, voice and imagination to unlock inhibitions, to open you up to possibilities and bold experimentation.

Let's Play on 17 December 2016

We are very excited to present Let's Play, an open workshop for anyone wanting to spend the day challenging themselves playfully and creatively and discovering gifts that spontaneity has to offer. It's gonna be riot and be prepared to delight yourself immensely as people from very diverse backgrounds get together to spend a Saturday together.

 Write to us to confirm a spot for yourself in the workshop.

Creative Living- psychodrama as an enabler

I have been a student of psychodrama for over 5 years now and perusing though my notes I came across this wonderful introduction to psychodrama by my first teacher- Herb Propper. Life has never been the same since my first psychodrama class- and while the journey of imbibing psychodrama is ongoing, psychodrama for me serves as the most poignant action based process of uncovering our humanity through play and spontaneity. Through playing out a range of roles we play specifically in our lives, we are able to access our own inner wisdom, resourcefulness and become more present to our being. The excerpt I have added below is a simple understanding of what psychodrama is and what it can do for us.

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Excerpts from - An introduction to psychodrama by Herb Propper

What is Psychodrama?

Psychodrama is a means of exploring our lives together with other people in spontaneous roleplaying action. It is therapeutic in the widest sense, providing us with opportunities to investigate and integrate body, mind and spirit, and to connect more deeply with others than we often do in our normal day-to-day life. A fundamental goal of psychodrama is to help us activate and expand our individual and collective spontaneity and creativity.

What is spontaneity in psychodrama?

 In psychodrama, being spontaneous is not about acting impulsively or blindly, without thought or consideration for others. Instead, spontaneity is defined in practical terms as being able to create "a new response to an old situation" or "an adequate response to a new situation," where adequate is measured by actions that satisfy both our own needs and those of the persons with whom we interact. Using various active role-playing methods, we have opportunities to practice a variety of responses to a person or situation. We can also experience the impact of our responses on others by stepping into their shoes and feeling the effects of the way we express ourselves or ask for what we need. Through the creative contributions of others who are participating in the role-playing, we receive a wider perspective on our own life.

What is 'surplus reality'?

Have you ever come away from a conversation or an event wishing you'd done or said something different? All of us have experienced this at one time or another. This is one example of a key element of psychodrama known as 'surplus reality.' Psychodrama works with the contents of our imagination, providing an opportunity to see, feel and even touch some of our inner images by bringing them into concrete, physical reality. Through the transformative power of surplus reality, we can give voice to objects that have emotional meaning for us, animals [including pets], and dead or absent parents, friends or family members. We are given the chance to experience life not as it was, but "as it ought to be," in other words, life as we truly and honestly would like it. This gives us the opportunity in a safe setting to try out new ways of living, creating "a rehearsal for life."


What is needed for psychodrama?

A psychodrama session consists of 5 essential elements:

1. A stage- which may be a specially-constructed area for the drama, or merely some open space in a room

2. A group of people- whether on-going or especially collected together to participate in a psychodrama

3. A protagonist-  who is a member of the group who volunteers to investigate some aspect of his or her life in action, with the assistance and cooperation of the group;

4. A Director - someone who is trained and experienced in psychodrama, and who serves to guide and support the protagonist in his/her investigation, to coordinate the action of the psychodrama

 5. 1 or more Auxiliaries [helpers for the protagonist]- members of the group who are chosen by the protagonist to play the various roles in the drama that emerges, and who aid the protagonist by bringing their own creative insights and spontaneous action into the drama.


Where is psychodrama used?

Psychodrama is used in hospitals, clinics and in private therapeutic practice by psychologists, psychiatrists, social workers, counsellors and mental health clinicians. With its companion method of sociodrama it is also used in educational settings, correctional institutions, religious institutions, community agencies, organizations and corporations.